I think about my cousin Sonya who died at 41 from colon cancer a few years ago. We were first cousins; my mother's niece. Sonya had her first child at 40 and when she was pregnant with Zion, we had no idea she had cancer. We thought that her symptoms were due to her pregnancy, but no. Sonya had cancer and died when her son was one. But one thing I learned about Sonya was that her husband Gil loved her. They loved each other God’s way. I learned then that who you love is way more than a fantasy. God knew Gil would be a single father. We didn’t know. But God knew. This is why when you love, you want to make sure it doesn’t make worldly sense, but God sense. God sent a mate to match where Sonya was going. Lust will have you picking a mate for today, which is why it fails.
I love that when God speaks about love, he says “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.” 1 Corinthians 13:11 In other words, being in love isn’t a game. It’s for grown folks. As adults, we need to learn to love maturely and responsibly, which in turn means unselfishly. When falling in love, remember that love isn't magic. It's work. It's good work, but it requires lots of effort; patience; compromise; dedication and forgiveness. Much of the time when it comes to love, we just want to feel the easiness and comfort of love. The part that is kind. But love, according to the Word, is longsuffering. And if we want to experience God; if we want to experience the love he has for us particularly when it comes to our mate, we must know that love isn’t magic. Yes, God is love. But love is work that takes lots of practice. Love, my friends, is a choice. A decision. A verb. A commitment. It’s not magic at all.
Moving forward, if you intend on loving someone, love with God’s creation of love and not the worlds. If you commit to a fantasy of what you think love ought to be, you could be missing God and you’re setting yourself up for failure. God has sent a help meet for man because the word says "It is not good for man to be alone," (Gen 2:18) and so that PURPOSE can be completed. Satan will always promote his form of love which is LUST. He’ll always make lust look better, feel better. But if you're in tune with God; if you KNOW him, you will choose love God’s way. Then, love will never, ever, fail. LOVE ABSOLUTELY WORKS. It’s Lust that doesn’t.